5 Ways Not to Screw Up Your Kids... and Most of All You

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Be normal… just be normal!

Ah, yeah that's not going to happen.

“This is the funny thing about growing up. For years and years, everybody's desperately afraid to be different in any way. And then, suddenly, almost overnight, everybody wants to be different. And that is where we win"- Mitchell (Modern Family)

I love that quote. I hope that is true for most adults. That means that we can at least be great role models for our children. We can start them young and really embrace all the unique stuff they pop into the world with.

The concept of being normal is defined as “conforming to a standard; usual, typical, or expected” (Oxford dictionary).

I don't know about you but… that sounds extremely boring and like you are not truly living… well not being who you want to be and become at least.

Ahh, yeah that is a total big pass.

 

… we taught ourselves and our children to celebrate their uniqueness? Wouldn’t they be happier? Wouldn't you be happier?

But, the key is to start them young and here is the trick... each and every day you love the total you, no matter what, yes no matter what. No matter if others applaud or boo. Yep that is the golden goose egg. Kids pick up everything, and they know what is inside you.

Now once you got that down, easy peezie, we can move on to some real concrete info...

5 things to check out:

  1. Pay Attention. Observe them when they are playing or interacting with other people. Notice what makes them unique. Listen to them, and notice their needs. Most importantly, be open to communication with them. Having you as a person to lean on when they are questioning themselves makes all the difference.

  2. Encourage their differences. Indulge them in what they want to do when they reach out to you. Play their game with them. Spend time in their world.

  3. Find a group or activity where they can shine. In order to find it, you will probably have to try a lot of different things. Get them out there and let them find out where their passions lie.

  4. Be an example. Be your unique self all of the time, and have the strength to be different. You will be a role model that your child will respect.

  5. Extend beyond the family. Again, be an example. Listen to everyone, even if they have a different point of view. Celebrate everyone’s uniqueness.

Enjoy the journey

  • SJW